Many of you probably know from coming to our recent events, I’m now very heavily pregnant. As someone who’s pretty driven, ambitious and business-focussed, it has been, (and I’m sure will continue to be), a massive lesson to me to give myself permission to relax through this time, and into the future.
I know I’m not the only one who struggles with this, as our world becomes increasingly cluttered with constant emails, facey messages, tweets, posts, ads, pings, pins, stumbles, etc. the noise creates a sense of urgency that drives our body-mind system into a constant state of alertness. It’s actually fight or flight. Adrenalin. Not good for extended periods of time.
I used to have a terrible habit of checking my iphone last thing before bed, and first thing in the morning. Constantly checking it when I had one second when I wasn’t doing something, I have since decided that the best way for me to stop myself doing that is to leave my phone on silent in my office when I finish work for the day.
Permission is a wonderful frame of mind to take into a problem, to help shift it. Often we have unconscious rules about what we are and are not allowed to do, we’re not even aware of them until they become problems.
So here’s some questions to help you discover if you’re allowed to relax.
You need to create the intention to relax in order to do it. Rest is vital for your immune system, brain and body to function properly, you will get more done after some time in quiet relaxation than attempting to do 5 things at once all at crazy speed. If you don’t value rest, you will think of it as ‘doing nothing’ and may not value that time that you are spending relaxing.
I now block out time in my calendar for rest, so I don’t get tempted to think that I’m not doing something productive and then overbook myself.
It’s always easier to relax on holiday, away from the distractions and pressures of home and work. That’s because you’re in a different environment, with different parameters and intentions. You can create a ‘holiday/ relaxation’ space in your daily life with some simple tweaks. Here’s some suggestions you might like to test out…